Sounds very familiar unfortunately. not a good situation. I hope he gets himself straight, for his family if nothing else
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Oh, and to add to the "he made his bed" scenario, $37,000 of my student loans went to buy him the equipment he needed to start a tree business. When a branch fell on our barn, I had to get it down myself and then BORROW a chain saw because he came and took every piece of our business equipment and sold it for pennies on the dollar at the pawn shop and then sold the pawn tickets, so he hasn't been working and our income is completely on rental property that we owe thousands of dollars in personal property tax on that is due by Jan 15. And last night he called and admitted that he got all the rent from the tenants for this month and next month already, by having them pay their rent for December in November, and if they did, he gave them January for free. So there will be nothing coming in to his family until Feb and I am probably going to have to sell property for pennies on the dollar just to get the bills, his attorney and his bond paid and food and diapers for his kids. There is only so much killing myself I am going to do for him at this point.
I do too. Because he's crossed a point of being able to fix things at this point if I can't take control of everything.
Don't you dare start feeling guilty because you are tired of you and your children being someone's doormat because they can't behave.
addiction is an evil bitch. hurts so many. i'm sorry. Isn't his dad sick too? Or am I thinking of someone else?
I don't feel guilty at all. I have been warning him since the last arrest that this was going to happen. If anything, I am relieved. I know no one is coming to take anything else. I know that eventually money is coming to help me with these kids and I know that I'm not going to get the call that he is in a ditch dead or dead from overdose. His dad died in April. That is what kicked all of this off. His dad was the only one in the family that wasn't a drug addict or a drug dealer and he only lived 4 months after the cancer diagnosis and my husband is not coping well. I am mad, and I am frustrated, but I know who he is when he is clean and I feel terrible for him in a lot of ways and am doing everything I can think of to give him the chance to get better because I know addiction is a disease and that if he were in his right mind, he wouldn't be doing all these things. But like you said the other day, I need a break from him and all this (which as you know is exhausting for the sober people being impacted) and I need a chance to get us back where we need to be financially.
I'll shutup after this because you're a grown woman and you have to find you're own way and its really none of my business but I'm a bit fired up. You think at the time that you're doing the right thing. You think at the time the kids are ok, they won't remember this. My two that went through this with me and their father were pre-school at the time. They are 26 and 27 now. Its effected their entire life and self worth. I have wished so very many times that I had just gotten away from him earlier and saved them instead of trying to save him. He couldn't have been saved anyway but they could have.
Ok, Imma be more like you guys this week. When it's slow, I'm going to grind on the stuff I normally don't touch instead of wasting time. But...what do I work on? What non-masters batches are best? R&R? Tagasaurus? Is there a script that makes one of those better than the rest?
Miranda, I'm sorry to say it, but rather than turk for bond money I would suggest you turk to pay for a divorce lawyer. Some people will NEVER change no matter what. Jail or no jail. If he is consumed with whatever evil has forced him to act that way for this long, and treat you the way he has for this long, nothing is going to change. You're either going to end up in jail with him or in debt trying to save his ass. Either way you shouldn't be going through this. I have a sister in law who has been causing our family hell since she was 14. Googling her name brings up over 20 mugshots, all drug related. She just got released in August after spending 3 YEARS in Prison and has only came and seen her kids twice. She stayed down south with some dick that she met as a pen pal while in prison. According to her facebook she's living out the great thug life with her mexican rapper gangster boyfriend while her mother and the rest of us continue to take care of her kids. She's a piece of trash. Always has been, always will be. We have finally washed our hands of her and to be honest, everyone is way less stressful now that we all agreed to just let her rot and stop helping her. You'll be amazed how great your life can be when you let him go and move on.
Tagasauris hasn't had their worthwhile hits up in months. The ones up now are all terrible. Calebro, dat u? Edit: *glances up* Man, y'all are making me so happy I'm single. Ain'tnobodygottime.gif